We all know that getting through college and meeting the demands of a rigorous course schedule is hard enough. When you add going through an ugly breakup on top of that, just coping can be very difficult. A college relationship can get very serious, very quickly, and if you’re not careful, it can start to take over your life. No matter what, though, you have to make sure you know how to get through the breakup gracefully so that you can move on with your life and turn the chapter as quickly as it began. Here is how to deal with a breakup in college.
Say What You Need to so that You Can Move On
After the end of every relationship it’s important that both people find closure. If you don’t feel like you understand why you broke up, or you don’t feel like the other person understands where you’re coming from, then it can be hard to feel a sense of closure. That’s why you want to figure out what you need to say and make your peace. Oftentimes, it can help to journal about all of your feelings and then decide how to present them.
Return and Retrieve All Personal Belongings
It’s amazing how quickly a couple can start to trade and share belongings. Whether you’ve left DVDs, video games, clothing, medications or any other personal belongings at each other’s places, you’ll want to make sure you return and retrieve everything. You don’t want anything left around your room to remind you of your ex, and you don’t want to leave anything with them that you’ll never get back. The earlier you take care of this, the better.
Don’t Look at Your Ex’s Social Media
It can be so hard at the end of a relationship to not look at your ex’s social media accounts. You may have all kinds of questions about how the other person is doing, whether or not they’ve moved on, and who they’re spending their time with, but you simply can’t allow yourself to investigate those thoughts. You will only be rehashing all of your feelings, so you may as well move forward and accept that you don’t need to be in each other’s lives.
Don’t Talk About Your Breakup on Social Media
In addition to not looking at your ex’s social media accounts, you don’t want to address your breakup on your accounts. Your close friends will be there to talk you through it in person, but you don’t want to make it a public affair. Not only will it make things more dramatic, but it will set off red flags for other people who might be interested in you.
Put Your Extra Time into Your Studies
The one good thing about a breakup is that it means you will have more time for yourself. This means that you will have more time to devote to your studies. Time that you will really need if you’re studying for UAB’s bachelors in information systems. This may not sound that great, but if you really embrace this opportunity, you will find a heightened sense of confidence and capability.