How to Turn Phone Sex into Real Sex

Published On March 17, 2017 | By Evelyn Quisenberry | Relationship

Phone sex is a bit of a dying art with the advent of the internet and phones with cameras – sexting is seen as infinitely superior by so many people – but phone sex is something which still has so much to offer to anyone who tries it. Obviously phone sex is invaluable for anyone who is in a long distance relationship (or simply single and lonely. Or single and wanting to try it. Or single and…you get the idea), but phone sex can spice up any relationship by bringing something new to the table, or it can help to bring a new relationship to the next level by easing into being sexual with one another.

Phone at Night

The night always seems more sensual, doesn’t it?  Maybe we associate it with sex because of all the candle-lit dinners in movies, or the descriptions of said dinners in books (lit by the light of the full moon), or the vampires which are part of pop culture.  Phoning at night means that most of the day’s work will be done, and that both of you will be relaxed and open to the possibilities suggested by phone sex.

Take your time

This particularly applies to phone sex which is being used as part of moving into a sexual (or more sexual) relationship. Take things slowly…it is okay to start the conversation by simply having an everyday conversation about jobs and hobbies. This not only sets the scene and allows all parties involved to understand that the conversation is about to transition into phone sex, it also allows for people to feel safe.

Safety, for many people, is the key to being able to relax. Relaxation means that the person you are having phone sex with will be much more open to it and the possibilities behind it, so relaxing is fairly important for everyone to get as much as they can out of the experience.

Flirt with Her

It might seem self-explanatory, but for someone to have both phone sex and actual sex with you, they need to feel attracted to you, and you need to show that you can turn them on effectively, and make them want more.

Treat the phone conversation like a particularly intimate date, if you want it to go well. For bonus points, use this as a test run for an actual date later (the run-up to your actual sex). Include:

  • Flirtatious sexual banter
  • Teases
  • Compliments
  • Sexual innuendos

Good ideas for transitioning from a normal phone conversation to actual phone sex are to include changing the questions you ask to ones which are slightly more direct in their allusions to sex, and then slowly, as you gauge her level of interest and openness to the way the conversation is going, you can progress to more intimate questions, until you are truly engaged in phone sex.

The best way to go from phone sex to real sex is to treat the phone conversation (not to mention the person on the other end of the phone!) delicately. Don’t jump right into the conversation – pick your moment.  Spending time getting to know someone and letting the intimacy grow gradually is the best way to let the tension grow and blossom into phone sex, and then real sex afterwards.

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