The Do’s and Don’ts of Dating in College
Dating is one of the inevitable factors of the college experience. Even those who had absolutely zero luck with their love lives in high school will eventually find their match, or matches, in college. Given that it’s an environment full of similar-aged, like-minded people, all with new funded independence and enthusiasm for their new life path, matches are bound to be made.
It’s a time of fun romantic experimentation, and a crazy outlier from the way your real dating life will be. It can also be a time of immense heartbreak. Young love is the most passionate and fragile love there is, after all. Young people often fail to think and feel logically, and it leads to a number of crazy life decisions for everyone involved. And it doesn’t help that, since it’s college, you’re likely to see the very person who broke your heart the next day in the quad.
The nearly inevitable promise of heartbreak is not enough to scare you away from the experience of dating in college. It’s just reason enough to follow these do’s and don’ts to make it the best experience it can be.
DO: Have Fun
Don’t put pressure on yourself! Sure, there are some people who meet their soulmate in college, but that’s not the goal, and soulmates don’t really exist, anyway. With this in mind, just remind yourself that dating is supposed to be fun. If you aren’t having fun, you’re probably with the wrong person, or are not yet ready to be dating.
DON’T: Get Too Serious Too Soon
I’ve seen countless young relationships implode because they attempted to commit to each other too much at too young of an age. It’s an understandable reflex. Attending college and living on your own makes you feel like you’re capable of anything, and ready for the real challenges of the world. Having the opportunity to live with your significant other, doesn’t mean you should.
DO: Be Honest
A lot of dating advice will tell you to act like a scam artist. Never reveal your true feelings, always have the upper hand. This won’t be conducive to the happiness of either party involved in your romantic encounters. Tell the other person how you’re honestly feeling at all times. If this pushes them away, maybe they weren’t right for you.
DON’T: Go to School Online
How are you supposed to meet all the fine honeys if you’re getting your UAB online? If your goal for obtaining the perfect college experience includes meeting new people around campus, then stick to a traditional in-person program.
DO: Put Yourself Out There
With all of the love being shared around you in college, you may start to look at yourself a little too closely in the mirror if it doesn’t happen right away for you. It will happen eventually; all you have to do is keep trying. Your next love won’t be able to find you if you don’t make yourself available
DON’T: Have Unprotected Sex
It may seem like a great idea at the time, but it’s not. It is going to ruin your life, and you’ll never forgive yourself. Just ask your parents (just kidding).